Especially at this stage of life, why would you want a relationship that doesn't bring you happiness?I can think of something far worse than being single, gay and older. Dave Singleton works for AARP Publications and has written two books and numerous columns on dating and relationships.
And as a regular American woman, I had never witnessed a real life Greek god penis with his turtleneck covering his little head.
Well, until I fell in love with an Indian guy who worked in my office.
And so what if he doesn't immediately strike you as hot and sexy?
Now it might be comforting to find a partner who can relate to your experiences and your outlook, and has the same pop culture references you do.
You recognize dysfunction and mismatches faster now than you did when you were younger.
But that doesn't mean you should be rigid and inflexible. Chat with a guy who isn't your "type" and stretch your boundaries.
Bette Davis used to say, "Getting older ain't for sissies." Amen!
Neither is dating at midlife — especially if you're a gay man. But don't let that be your excuse for sitting home on Saturday night watching reruns of The Golden Girls.
With all the focus on marriage equality these days, it's easy for gay men to think that being single and happy is an oxymoron.
There's more focus on getting into a committed relationship than there is on making sure it's the right one.
It's also a good idea to ask your closest friends for regular feedback (yes, ask them to give you input on your actions and choices), so you don't get stuck in your ways. Realize you can be single and happy Hey, you don't have to tell me it's tough being gay, single and over 50.